5 years into our marriage, I became a financial coach so I could help other couples achieve success with their money and experience the kind of freedom my wife and I were lucky enough to have every day.
With each client I worked with, I noticed
shocking similarities in the challenges they faced. They were often quick to
point a finger, blame the other person and feel like no matter what they said no one listened.
It didn't take long before I realized the same fundamental tactics that my wife and I used in our marriage were what these couples were missing. They all said they couldn't get on the same page because their spouse didn't think the way they did. Husbands said their wives were nit picking their decisions and wives said their husbands weren't committed to making any changes.
I discovered that both parties always wanted the same thing, but they couldn't communicate it in a way that made the other listen or understand.
Soon, I put the pieces together, evaluated all the conversations I'd had with my spouse and my clients and created a framework for helping couples understand and communicate with each other so they could avoid fighting about money. I call it...